When You’re Apart, But Not Alone

Posted by Thursday, November 10, 2016 4 2

As I lie here on a blanket on the ground writing this post, I’ve got my headphones in and I’m listening to an episode of Charmed on Netflix that I’ve seen a thousand times, and Ethan is lounging on the couch behind me playing a video game on his PlayStation 4. We haven’t spoken in 40 minutes, and I couldn’t be happier. Why? Because we are apart, but we aren’t alone. As far as I’m concerned we’re actually logging some great couple time right now. And that is a perfect example of how an adult relationship should work. And that’s something I’m proud of because, hello, this whole blog is kinda about learning to be a grown-up.

Grown-up’s don’t need to spend every single second with their significant other. And even if you are having “couple time” you don’t have to actually be doing the same activity to be bonding. I’m typing away over here and he’s fighting a monster, or zombie, or gorilla, and that’s okay. That’s fine. Because alone time is important. And time couple time is important. But there are only so many hours in the day (and in the week), so why not find a way to do both at once? Genius, I know.

Ever since I started trying to improve my work-life balance, Ethan and I have found a way to spend more time together doing fun activities. But I’ve also tried to focus on doing the things I love to do just for me, like writing on this blog every single day (thank you, NaBloPoMo challenge). So, to those of you who are part of a “we,” I strongly recommend finding time to be apart, but not alone. Maybe sit together quietly and read. Or zone out on your respective computers if that’s more your speed. Either way, take some time for yourself, while you take some time for your relationship. You’ll be surprised by how easy it is.

  • Ramya
    November 11, 2016

    Rightly said, giving space and also enjoying each other’s company would be great for a couple. We, as a couple do a lot like that.

    • Jennifer Maas
      November 11, 2016

      That’s so great! Ya, it’s definitely important.

  • Cassie Jacobs (@quithittingsis)
    November 11, 2016

    My husband and I spend time together like this daily. I love that I am not alone yet I can still get my stuff done. We also spend time ‘together’ when we play video games together form different rooms.

    • Jennifer Maas
      November 11, 2016

      Haha! I love that. It’s the mark of a great relationship I think!

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